by Halley Suitt

Okay, Guys, Dish!

in Social Issues

Wed, 09 Feb 2005, 10:40

I hate to see this little blog get ignored.  I wanted to ask everyone where they were at in their "no drinking" process and kick start the blog with some new info.

Two very good friends of mine completely stopped drinking this year and I see them working hard to keep clean and clear.   They inspire me.

I've stopped being so strict myself.   I've gotten more "relaxed" about drinking ... I actually don't recall when I blogged last about this here and if this is news or not, but I am drinking a bit.   I drink wine with dinner or a party now and then ... maybe once a week?   

Still, it does result in me being a lot more foggy and slow to get up the next morning to exercise, so I've decided to quit it once for all.   It doesn't seem worth it.

I want to retrain my response to fatigue and stress.  If I feel stressed and think, "Jeez, I really need to relax,"  I want my response to be reaching for my yoga tape or turning  the doorknob to go out for a walk, or even blogging here, instead of drinking anything alcoholic.

So ... who else wants to give us an update? 

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Feb 9, 2005 7:18:53 PM
1 - eric

yeah, this poor blog is a bit neglected it seems. i am coming up on 3 years of sobriety in april, and although from time to time i wonder if i have made the right choice, when i reflect on hangovers, lost time, and the overall health risk factor, i realize that, for me, it is the right decision.

it's somewhat strange, but the longer i am sober, the less that i feel i *need* something to relax. i just *am* more relaxed. i hope that overall feeling lasts, because it really is a much superior state of being.

all in all, i can say that my life, mentally, physically, and emotionally, has continued to get better. and that coming from someone who places great stock in the magical fun and inspiration to be had in the drink. if only someone would come up with a killer drink that had no side effects!

and if the side effects don't bother you, i say "party ON". but my experience is that living without the side effects of drinking is awesome.

Feb 10, 2005 5:26:46 AM
2 - fp

As you may or may not know, I am older than dirt. I quit drinking when my twin boys were five years old. They're twenty-five now. In general I think I was a much better parent and a better example than I would have been if I hadn't quit drinking.

When I "successfully" quit smoking cigarettes several years before I quit drinking, I learned an important lesson about the binary nature of abstinence for me. My success was short lived because I thought I could have one or two without returning to my pack a day habit.

I can't. I'm either smoking or I'm not. Same goes for drinking I think, although I've never cared to test it.

We're all different, we each make our own choices. For me, some of the good choices have been to not let force of habit ruin my health. If I had not quit drinking, I would not be older than dirt.

Feb 10, 2005 7:11:17 AM
3 - Tom..

When I knew I needed to quit drinking once and for all, I Googled "Quit drinking" and ended up here. I posted a few times on this blog and someone on here suggested that I go into the forum and check it out. ("A place to talk about it" at the top of the page)So I did. I'm breaking my addiction to alcohol (it's been 130 days since I've drank), but now am addicted to this forum. :) So many wonderful people in there just like myself that are finding just how great life can be, when you don't have your head in the bottle. Maybe this blog is seeming a little neglected these days, because people are going to the forum that I finally found. If you haven't checked it out yet, please do. Go in as a guest and do some reading. Pretty cool stuff indeed. Halley, come in and say hello to everyone, we'd be delighted.

Tom..

Feb 11, 2005 9:37:47 AM

I stop by this blog regularly. Nice to see some updates. Thanks!

Feb 13, 2005 6:56:37 AM
5 - Dustin Johnson

Quitting drinking is something I think I need to do for myself, and mainly for my family. I'm only 23 years old, however I've been drinking since I was 16. My family has a history of problems with drugs and alcohol, but I always thought I'd be the "exception" that could drink without a problem. I tend to be able to quit drinking for fairly decent periods of time, i.e. stop for a month, drink a couple of times.... decide I need to stop again and go a month, drink a couple of times, etc.

I get so motivated after not drinking for a month, and counting the days seems to make it easier. There always comes that day though, when I feel like I've gone long enough and 'proven' to myself that I don't need alcohol to live, therefore I allow myself to drink again. It's kind of ironic isn't it?

I feel like I would be happier without drinking, and I feel like I would be more successful without drinking. It always feels like I have something to 'prove' to people who drink, as if there were something wrong with me opting not to drink. I don't know why I feel this way, but I feel out of the loop when I'm not drinking. I've decided to attempt the journey again, hopefully I can make it stick!

Feb 14, 2005 11:20:20 AM
6 - BC

WOW.....I just found this site and it is really helping me...I have decided to cut back on my drinking...and was wondering if there was any site on the net that would provide stories and shared experiences...AND THIS IS IT!!!! Thus far I have been reading past post....I hope this site does not die because you guys don't know how many people you are helping/reaching....it is also good to know that I am not the only one.....PLEASE post updates, and encouragement.....

Feb 16, 2005 7:11:10 AM
7 - stef

Thanks for this site. I hope it will help me feel better and be more productive. :)

Feb 17, 2005 12:54:28 PM
8 - Helen

Hello everyone here. I'd love to see this site more active. I am reading here for inspiration. I am planning to quit soon. I will be going to an outpatient detox counseling center.

Feb 17, 2005 9:11:45 PM
9 - jon

I quit drinking about two months ago and I feel great,altho at 49 yrs old I wish I had quit much earlier in life,as I have a lot of catching up to do,emotionally and financially.For me,booze was a way of life,worked as a logger,miner,trucker,etc.Spent many years in camps and small northern towns.I could write a book on some of the stupid shit that went on while drinking.In one small town I lived in for 12 years,the whole town was drunk,no kidding!The only one who did very well there was the hotel owner,where we drank.
I must say tho that in my younger days the drinking was fun,really was,too bad it becomes such a damned addiction.Then there were the guys who could have a few beers and know when to go home,why couldnt I have done that?
I dont think Ive actually quit so much,as just grown out of it,its just no fun anymore at 49,guess Im finally smart enough to realise it,oh well,better late than never.

Feb 19, 2005 9:33:16 PM
10 - N8

N8 here! New Years Resolutions have been OK so far! I am bored as hell lately... I started running along with the exercise but it has been raining in San Antonio. I feel lethargic about the whole thing. I almost feel like the depravity has gotten to be an addiction. I moved here with no friends, no work and no life. I tons of friends in CA and I especially miss my girlfriends! I quit smoking and cigarettes plus the alcohol in one fell swoop. I have recently started a brutal regimen including yoga and soon to come cardio training. At least my lungs feel better! L8 N8

Feb 20, 2005 10:08:15 AM
11 - Estelle

I find myself wondering if "giving up" alcohol means that you thought you had an issue with drinking too much?
Some recent posts refer to the after effects of too much. What of those of us who like to enjoy a glass of wine? A nip of scotch? Because we like the taste. Not because we are out to get drunk, or to get a buzz. It's highly unlikely that most individuals will get buzzed off one glass of wine, however that one glass of wine might really complete the meal and enhance the flavor of the food being eaten.
I have proven that drinking less is much,much better for my health. Many issues came up for me in the last year, which resulted in approximately 6 months without drinking. I didn't miss it, didn't feel compelled to drink, and when I did, I felt sickish.
Just want to understand what's motivating you in your personal non-alcoholic mission...

Feb 20, 2005 8:25:57 PM
12 - Jason M

I haven't touched alcohol since November 2004, (three months ago, and I feel great overall). But still there are some issues between me and several old friends who go out drinking to get drunk every weekend...

Feb 23, 2005 9:07:08 AM
13 - Tim

Great sight have been reading the comments and I have to agree that feeling good usually means not drinking at all. I find for me even one glass of wine makes me feel sick and not as good as I can feel. So I try not to do that too often, however I'm sort of inspired by the tone of this site, doesn't seem too preachy at all, and there are people here who haven't drank for a long time, so I think I'll try and do the same.

Feb 24, 2005 8:27:33 AM
14 - Maggie

It is thanks to this web site that I quit. I was disgusted with myself for failing at previous attempts, and was searching the web for helpful information when I found this site. One of the posters recommended the Rational Recovery site, so I went there, did the exercises, and just quit. I don't know if it works for everyone, but it really opened my eyes to the whole process of how addiction seems to work in my brain. It's been six months since I quit, and truthfully, I don't miss it at all, don't even mind if the whole room is drinking except for me. It's wonderful to wake up in the morning clear-headed. Plus, I magically lost 20 pounds. Thanks for this site, it was a godsend.

Feb 24, 2005 4:08:22 PM
15 - Kristine

That's great Maggie! This site and Rational Recovery have both been very helpful to me too! It's been about three months for me and I'm SO happy I finally quit. It feels great!

Feb 25, 2005 8:52:19 AM
16 - Maggie

Kristine, I was happy to see your comment and know that someone else benefitted from the same sources that I did. I am thankful for them every single day. All the best to you!

Mar 3, 2005 7:32:46 PM
17 - SHANNA

I AM A 27 YEAR OLD MOTHER THTA IS VERY HARD WORKING, YET I DRINK EVERYDAY..ALOT. I KNOW I AM AT THE WRONG PLACE, BUT IT IS LATE AND THERE IS NOWHERE ELSE TO GO. AND TO FINALLY JUST ADMITT I NEED HELP BAD IS A RELEASE OF ECSTACY. I SEE THAT MOST OF YOU GUYS HAVE QUIT, AND PLEASE KNOW, I HAVEN'T. IT'S BEEN AT LEAST 9 YEARS OF AN EVERYDAY EPISODE WITH ME. I HATE WHAT I DO. I WANT IT TO GO AWAY. I WANT THAT NEVER ENDING PAIN TO STOP AND SAY TO ME,"SHANNA, YOU'RE FREEEEEE". I SWEAR EVERYDAY I TELL MYSELF I AM QUITING TOMORROW, YET I GO TO THE STORE AND I BUY IT OVER NAD OVER AGAIN. I DON'T UNDERSTAND IT , HELL MAYBE I NEVER WILL...I AM SAYING MY PRAYER NOWTO SOMETHING HIGHER THAN ME, THAT I NEED HELP FROM SOMEONE OUT THERE OR I KNOW I WILL DIE SOONER THAN MY DAUGHTER DESERVES.

Mar 7, 2005 2:09:48 AM
18 - Nadine

I quit drinking on Febuary 13, 2005. It's been a hard road, but also full of wonder and excitement for this new life I've chosen to live. Some days are easier than others. Tonight I watched beautiful sunset...I used to love to watch beautiful sunsets with a big 'ol glass of wine. But I made myself a big 'ol cup of tea and just moved through it. I'll go to bed early tonight to stop thinking about it.
I stumbled onto this site yesterday completely by accident. I'm so glad I did. It feels so good to hear other people's stories and to know that I'm not alone on this journey and that I wasn't the only one made crazy by my desire for alcohol. But I've known for a while that is was controlling me, and it feels good just to have been free from it for this past 23 days. My mind is more clear, and I'm getting things checked off of my "to do" list. Amazingly, that monkey I was carrying on my back has gotten a bit smaller as well. I didn't think a "side affect" of sobriety would be less anxiety...that surprises me greatly. What a great perk! I hope this lasts because so far it feels like the right decision albeit difficult at times.
This is my first post and my first acknowlegement to anyone that I have stopped drinking. I told my friends that I gave up alcohol and cigs for Lent (I'm not Catholic, by the way...). So, thanks for the venue, and thanks for sharing the stories. It helps the move through...

Mar 9, 2005 2:06:40 AM
19 - Ali

Hi there, just found you rweb site. It is really niceto hear some people actually dont drink. Apart from Asians, I am surrounded by people that do and after having sopme very odd effects from alcohol in the last ocuple of years I have decided to quit. My only worry is that being shy, I will never meet people. Although to be honest, I never liked them much even if I did. There are so few web sites discussing this and i dont really need a 12 step plan as I only drank when I had to (or felt i had to) but after starting sleepwalking and hallucinating from it several times I have to stop! Thanks for setting this site up and good luc, Ali.

Mar 10, 2005 5:32:46 PM
20 - Paul

I am just completing my third day of abstaining from alcohol. I have quit drinking many times, only to start again. Tomorrow is Friday and payday and I was thinking about drinking tomorrow night...but after reading all these posts I think I will go for four days...then more. Thanks everybody for sharing your stories. You have been an inspiration.

Mar 17, 2005 11:31:16 AM
21 - Edward

I have stopped drinking hundreds of times. Usually it was after a particularly difficult night of drinking. Gradually I coaxed myself into a beer or two. That didn't seem to do much harm so I added a couple more the next night. All along I failed to see the sinister pattern. I am back on my first day again, after an embarassing drunk last night. I am in pain physically and emotionally. Mostly I am ashamed that I do not have control over this thing. It has beaten me completely. As I read the posts in this room I feel grateful that I am not alone.

Mar 19, 2005 3:21:17 PM
22 - Tom..

Halley,

Feeling a little ignored over here at WQD, what's the deal, sister?

Gammermom can get by without you for 5 min.(wink)

Hope all is well.

Tom..

Mar 31, 2005 10:15:08 AM
23 - SlimJim

I am 29...and there I was...knocking back about 1/2 a liter of bourbon per night. I didn't even know it had gotten so bad. It was routine. It seemed to help me forget about my life, and allow me to live in an imaginary world, where nothing really mattered except the task at hand. How could I tell anyone I drank more bourbon per night than most people drink water? This I realized was another form of denial, because as soon as I told somebody, the problem would become real instead of imaginary. I won't even tell you some of the stupid things I did trying to quit which resulted in further addiction, when you are desperate you will try anything and everything. My favorite was drinking as much as I possibly could, so the next day I wouldn't want to drink anymore...(didn't work). Regardless, quitting was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, not physically, but mentally, because drinking was my answer for everything. I didn't find God, or have an interevention or anything. Since I am a tree hugger, I recycle everything...and when spring rolled around this year, I cleaned out my apartment, and had the opportunity to see in front of my face, all of the bottles I had drank for the past 9 months. All told, I had about 125 empty bottle of bourbon @ 25 bucks a pop. That is a little over $3,000 dollars, and I charged most of it on my credit card to boot. The money wasn't the problem, it was all those fucking bottles. At that moment in time, I was able to step out of my own addiction, and truly see myself for what I had become. I cried for about an 2 hours. Now I am 5 days sober, with no wife, no life, and no one to tell my story to. I will never tell anyone in real life what has happened to me...I am to ashamed, but life for me is about to change. I have bled this poison for to long. And my life lies on a different path. Thanks for listening.

Apr 3, 2005 2:53:38 PM
24 - N8

So the months are starting to tick by. I was a new years resolutioner. I am on the way to finding my self still... Yoga three times a week and exerciseing every day keeps me busy and more tired. I have been exausted but still stay up till midnight. I guess I am not sure what normal is for me... I am plugging along! Glad to hear others are too...

Apr 7, 2005 9:32:23 PM
25 - Janice

This is a wonderful blog...I just came upon it. I'm thrilled to hear about so many of your enjoying the gifts of sobriety. I am an alcoholic, and will be sober 15 months on 4/15. That's not a particularly long time, but it took me over ten years to get those 15 months, so they're precious to me. I used to miss alcohol terribly...I mourned it like a lost friend. Then I could see it and just feel reconciled to the fact that I can't drink. Now I see people drink and think, "Thank God I don't have to do that anymore." It was a 'friend' who overstayed her welcome!
Anyway, I'm so glad you people are here, and I'll be checking up regularly. Remember just because you don't drink, the party isn't over...PARTY SOBER!
Blessings