by Halley Suitt

Still Quitting

in Social Issues

Thu, 24 Feb 2005, 10:57

I guess you guys know that when you comment, I get a copy of the comment in my email.  It makes it easier to catch junky stupid spam comments for one thing, but also gives me a chance to read your comments asap.

Today I got to read this one from Maggie and I really liked it:

It is thanks to this web site that I quit.  I was disgusted with myself for failing at previous attempts, and was searching the web for helpful information when I found this site.  One of the posters recommended the Rational Recovery site, so I went there, did the exercises, and just quit.  I don't know if it works for everyone, but it really opened my eyes to the whole process of how addiction seems to work in my brain.  It's been six months since I quit, and truthfully, I don't miss it at all, don't even mind if the whole room is drinking except for me.  It's wonderful to wake up in the morning clear-headed.  Plus, I magically lost 20 pounds.  Thanks for this site, it was a godsend.

I haven't had any alcohol since the last post which I believe was February 9th.  Not a long time, but I'm glad I've managed it.  Also, I really appreciated the comment  from Tom that led me to the forums -- very awesome way to keep from drinking.  I think they are the best.  Check it out:

When I knew I needed to quit drinking once and for all, I Googled "Quit drinking" and ended up here. I posted a few times on this blog and someone on here suggested that I go into the forum and check it out. ("A place to talk about it" at the top of the page)So I did. I'm breaking my addiction to alcohol (it's been 130 days since I've drank), but now am addicted to this forum. :) So many wonderful people in there just like myself that are finding just how great life can be, when you don't have your head in the bottle. Maybe this blog is seeming a little neglected these days, because people are going to the forum that I finally found. If you haven't checked it out yet, please do. Go in as a guest and do some reading. Pretty cool stuff indeed. Halley, come in and say hello to everyone, we'd be delighted.

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Apr 18, 2005 7:39:29 AM
Can You Hear Me Now?

Link: We Quit Drinking: Still Quitting. I ran across this interesting blog. Anyone out there that is wanting to call drinking quits should take a look and maybe get some inspiration.

Comments

Feb 24, 2005 2:00:02 PM
1 - eric

halley, congratulations! the first few days can be pretty hard. really, the only amount of time that anyone who has determined to improve their life, and has taken steps to do so, is today. i remember that i disliked the sloganeering of alcoholics anonymous when i first started going to meetings, but slowly i realized that "one day at a time" really was another way of saying: be here in the present.
the choice is always there, and rather than look at it in a negative sense of choosing NOT to drink, i mostly look at it as choosing more positive, healthy things to do with myself, today.

Feb 26, 2005 12:38:38 PM
2 - Tom..

Halley, wow, great going on the no booze, sister! Yeah, the forum that I lead you too is full of special people that share the same struggles with alcohol as I do.(we do) It's a great place to post what's on your mind and get some really good feedback on it. Being able to relate to these people that were fighting the good fight that I was, was such a comfort to me. (especially in the very beginning). I must confess though, I do have an issue with you. You simply don't come in and post enough!! ;) I think there are a lot of people that would benefit from you coming in more often and sprinkling some wisdom down on us. So I'll leave you with this: "Okay, Halley, dish"!

Tom..

Mar 9, 2005 4:50:13 PM
3 - Chris

I quit drinking on May 25th, 1998 by the grace of God and the work that I spent doing the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. What a hideous morrass of self created crap I had created for myself. I remember sitting in my first meeting and just weeping because I had nuked my WHOLE life. I thank God that I reached that place of bitter, incomprehensible, demoralization. It made me willing to go any lengths.

I just happened to find this blog but I don't know what "forum" you guys are talking about. All I can say is that if you are in an area where you can get to meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous, I highly recommend it, they saved my life.

Mar 12, 2005 11:59:17 AM
4 - Grace

Well done Hayley, I hope you are still going. As Eric says the first few days can be hard. I keep torturing myself by having to relive them!

Apr 2, 2005 5:13:21 AM
5 - Jordan

Im 18 years pold and have been drinking heavily for about three years. Im addicted to the 'party hard' lifestyl. Every weekend I go out and get as drunk as I can. It used to be ok, Id get drunk, get the giggles or fall over nothing big. But then I started doing really stupid things; coming on to my girlfreinds, fighting with my freinds, fighting with the police, saying horrible things to my freinds.I just black out and cant remember any of the stuff Ive done the night before. I treid giving up but I kept saying 'Ill just cut down" and its really hartd at party's and clubs not to drink. I was just wondering if any of you had any advice for me?
Thanks

Apr 3, 2005 12:29:31 PM
6 - Erika

I am sitting at work today hungover as hell. I have been drinking since I was 17 but never like I have this year. I am only 21 years old and drinking controls me. I can go for a week without drinking but then the next time I do drink I hit it up hard. I have gained weight from it and know that I need to quit. I even lie to my fiance in order to drink more. I don't black out every time but last night just happened to be one of those nights. I was an awful bitch to my fiance and I don't remember a single second of it. I make scenes in public. I hit on guys in front of my fiance. I am just out of control. But most of all right now, I am scared. I don't want AA or rehab but I need something. I hate that once I start drinking I can not stop myself. I hate feeling like I feel today. The sweats and headache and nausia. I hate what my life has become and who I have become. My father is an alcoholic and went through rehab this summer so I know a lot of the facts about alcohol. I just don't know what to do. I am so sick of being "that girl" and I have been her for way too long. This is such a scary place to be in. I keep hurting my fiance and if I don't stop I know I might lose him even though he swears he will always stay by my side. I hate that as soon as I start drinking he worries about what kind of drunk I will be that night. I can't believe that even though I know that I still pick up the booze. I don't know how to stop.

Apr 4, 2005 2:28:47 PM

Jordan, Erika: Many people your age have succeeded in stopping drinking through A.A. It's not the only way that works, just a way that I have seen work often. If you live in or near a major city, then groups oriented specifically toward young people might be especially helpful. If not, try to ignore the rude and condescending comments you are bound to get regarding your age — "I spilled more than you ever drank;" "You're so lucky to be getting sober at such a young age; I wish I had done that;" — and concentrate on the parts and the people that you find useful. "Take the best and ignore the rest." The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking; you don't even have to be an alcoholic.

Feel free to contact me directly if I could possibly be of any help to you.

May 6, 2005 9:19:00 AM
8 - Pat

Jordan and Erika, I think you both are at least at the first step, you recognize a problem. Check out this blog, and the forum (the message board link at the top left corner of the page). There are many different ways to quit, AA, rational.org, and others...find a resource that works for you, make the decision to change, and go for it. It isn't easy but we can do it.

May 10, 2005 10:08:58 AM
9 - Lori

Ok, I'm ready to stop drinking. I'm scared because I don't know that I can do it on my own but I want to avoid rehab.
I read something about a rational recovery website. I want all the info you can give me. Anything!!! I want to stay busy.
And, yes, I googled my way here with "quit drinking". I'm ready to never have to regret the night before.

May 10, 2005 11:17:48 AM
10 - Halley

Hi you guys = I just told Lori in email she might try AA. Hope that helps. Meanwhile, I am still not drinking and I'll do some more blogging about it soon.

H

Jun 24, 2005 2:49:34 PM
11 - Helpless in Texas

WATCHING A DRINKER DIE
Have any of you watched someone drink until they flat line (heart stops)? Well, I watched my step dad do it right before my eyes. He was 49. he looked 79. He drank until he went into cardiac arrest. Now, I'm watching it for the second time with my husband. He is only 55.He has end stage cirrhosis, and given a minimum amount of time to live. Before his brain fried, he was a gifted, intelligent man with Howard Hughes ideas.People from all over the country would call him for help with something no one else could figure out. Now he can barely put on his shoes.His sons dont contact him anymore.All because of alcohol. So for those of you who started out slow and are now headed for the fast lane and wondering how much is safe to drink, I have the answer for you. NONE If your wondering if you have a drinking problem, then you do. ALCOHOL ALWAYS WINS if you let it.

Sep 6, 2005 10:04:21 PM
12 - bulging
Sep 19, 2005 7:56:21 PM
13 - angry
Oct 7, 2005 3:25:06 PM
14 - susan

Any tips on this kind of problem? I can go days without drinking. Then something bad happens and I hit the wine and can't stop. I don't even want it and force it down anyway. It always makes me feel horrible when I sober up. I don't even get terribly drunk. I just sip it to numb my nerves.

I want to stop. It's taking a serious toll on my health and my job. I don't handle stress well at all & need a much better alternative to dealing with it than alcohol. I used to be a big exercise hound and am trying to get back into that lately. I hate myself for all of this.

Oct 14, 2005 5:35:11 PM
15 - pete

susan i strongly suggest you get some hypnosis cd s -- paul mckenna you can download them on emule. get motivated get fit and get positive. that s what im doing. ;-)

Oct 18, 2005 3:31:31 PM
16 - orgy
May 3, 2006 2:40:58 PM
17 - mike

i may only be 20 years old but i'm finally admitting that i have a problem that i cant control. Most people my age are weekend drinkers or social drinkers but i'm an everyday very heavy drinker. I'v had my own place how for about a year and there is never anything in my frig but beer. I promise myself everyday when i'm at work that i'm not going to drink tonight but for some reason when i come home i cant help it.. and i just dont drink a few i drink untill i'm slammed and i hate it. Then i wake up the next morning for work everyday hating myself for what i did the night before. I'm scared because i know i'm definitly having signs of what could be a life long problem for me if i dont get my act together right now and nip it in the butt before its to late its going to be 10 times harder to stop. Its pethetic i'm drunk right now writing this and i wont stop untill i drink myself to sleep and its been like this for at least 6 months and deep down in my heart i know i'm doing the wrong thing but i honestly cant help it. i would greatly apprettiate any advice anyone can give me so i dont continue down this path thank you.

Jun 27, 2006 8:11:16 AM
18 - Nicki

OK. I'm 24 and have been drinking pretty much daily since college (probably since I was 20)...I'm talking, a bottle of vodka a day. I went on anti-depressants for a time period and that helped me stop drinking- then I lost my insurance and couldn't afford to take them anymore and went right back to drinking. I work a full time job and get drunk every night and HAVE to have a drink in the morning just so I can function. I drink throughout the day. I drink throughout the night. I drink mornings/afternoons and evenings. At work, I don't get drunk--I just need it or else i will go through MAJOR withdrawals and can't afford to feel like that. I have a good job- I work in advertising. It sucks. I suck and all I have to do is take off a week and sleep it away and that'll solve it for a little while--but it sneaks back up at u. I would suggest to anyone to read "DRY" by Augusten Burroughs. It helped me for a period of time at least. I'm not even going to ask for advice. I just needed to get this out so maybe the reality of the situation will finally sink in. I spend so much money on it too...it makes me broke. i can't pay my rent. it's ridiculous.

Jul 5, 2006 12:08:16 PM
19 - Mark

Today is my first day of another attempt to abstain from drinking. I'm 25 and started drinking heavily about 14 months ago after a bad breakup. There have probably been about 20 days in this 14 month period that I didn't drink myself to sleep. At one point in time, I was drinking a case of Budweiser each and every night and then trying to get more. I live in an apartment complex where hanging out on the front porch drinking beer is a regular occurance and it's going to be hell trying to hang out with all of my neighbors and not drink with them. I might end up hibernating for awhile. My goal is to make it for at least 30 days. I'm hoping that I have enough strength in me this time to succeed. All it takes is one beer for me and then there is no stopping me until the gas stations close or I pass out. I guess I'm not really looking for a response from anyone, I just wanted to get my story off my chest and actually admit to others that I have a problem. I feel I will have a better chance of succeeding having admitted that I have a problem that needs to be remedied. I wish all of you great success in your endevour for freedom from alcohol.

Nov 22, 2006 9:25:33 PM
20 - buzby

I really started drinking at about 13 years old. I remember even then knowing I was hooked. I thought alcoholism was cool. By the time I was in my early 20's it was really bad and I was having massive panic attacks and depression. I just kept on drinking to ease the pain and calm my anxious nerves.I too would be an obnoxious ass to my friends and girlfriends. Finally I just stopped going out altogether. Drinking alone. Then I'd make stupid late night phone calls to people. Finally I was just alone.....and drunk. No friends no girlfriends nada. Go to work...get home from work ..get drunk. My point is is that it will never get better it will only get worse...if you don't stop the drinking. Everyone can stop drinking if they really want to.Don't waste all of those years like I did!

Jan 2, 2007 7:30:20 AM

Wow, what a bunch of neat people trying to stop something that is so controlling and destructive. My hat is off to all of you trying to quit drinking :-)

I guess I was one of the "lucky" ones. When I was much younger, drinking even one beer would give me a horrendous migraine headache. So it was fairly easy for me to totally stop drinking alcohol. Even though I no longer get migraines (because of the high blood pressure meds I take) I still stay away from drinking because of all the horror stories I have heard.

Jan 2, 2007 7:42:29 AM

When I used to work in construction many years ago, I remember working with a few guys who used to drink so much that their perspiration smelled like alcohol. These guys were so “locked into” the drinking scene that virtually every day after work they would go to the local bar and drink. What was really sad was that a few of these guys were married and they drank their paychecks away. What a terrible way to start a “lasting relationship.” Drinking may be “cool” for a while, but it quickly turns ugly when it is abused. I think it’s great that commenter have "seen the light" and are trying to control their drinking rather than being controlled by the booze.

Jan 3, 2007 3:48:44 AM

The research isn’t conclusive, but it is demonstrated everyday that millions of people can and do drink alcohol in moderation without any negative side effects. In fact, some research has shown that drinking wine in moderation, for instance, can affect a person’s health in a positive manner. Unfortunately, there are some people who, for whatever reason, cannot drink any form or amount of alcohol. The comments on this blog reinforce this message again and again: if alcohol has been destroying your health, your relationships, and your life, you must quit. Thank you to everyone who has had the courage to tell his or her story :-)

Jan 8, 2007 5:02:49 PM
24 - T

I made the decision yesterday to quit drinking. I got drunk the night before and do not remember things. When I woke up on Sunday feeling absolutely miserable. I laid there reflecting on my life. I am 29 and going on 30 in 6 months exactly. All of a sudden I realized all the horrible mistakes I have made in my life relate to alcohol. I hate myself for all of the things I have done and for the hurt I've unknowingly caused others. I have been wanting to quit drinking for two years but it was really hard to do when my husband drinks as well. Actually, I think he doesn't know how to have a good time without it and to be honest...I don't know if he can admit to himself that he has a problem also. Nonetheless, he has decided to quit with me. I dumped every bottle I had in the house and packed up all our barware to go to storage. I'm feeling awesome about this decision but scared as well. I do not want to drink anymore. I am scared that my husband is going to fall off the bandwagon with me and I seriously think this could destroy our marriage. I need someone to talk to other than him because I don't believe he wants to talk about it at all.

Feb 27, 2007 7:34:25 AM
25 - Danielle

I started drinking in college and drink only on weekends socially. I thought that meant I did not have a problem, but at 28 I am tired of the hangovers, of regretting things I said..... I feel like my life is lived one hangover to the next and sometimes I try to stop after a drink or two and can't-that scares me. The problem is my husband is a social drinker and won't admit he has a problem and all our friends think I am fine and that there is no problem. I scared that with no support I won't be able to do this on my own and need someone else to talk to. I never pictured this ever being an issue when I planned and made goals for my life, but here I am and I know that I would be a better mother, wife, professional without alchohol.