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Tue, 02 Jan 2007, 07:45

Wouldn't it be nice to just QUIT?! No time like the present.

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by Halley Suitt

Welcome And Welcome Back

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Tue, 28 Jun 2005, 15:49

It's tough to stop drinking -- so if you're trying -- even starting today, just now -- bravo for you!  You're amazing!

It's also tough to hang in there and pile up one day after another of no drinking, so if you're doing that -- take a bow, we love you here, you rock!

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by Halley Suitt

Why It Feels Different

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Sun, 19 Jun 2005, 18:06

I don't know why, but the other night I was out and I knew I would never drink again.  I know "never" is a tricky word, but something feels different now.   

There wasn't even anything special going on.  I wasn't watching someone drunk embarrass themselves or noticing something specifically negative about drinking.  I just got this feeling that I don't drink.

I felt like "not drinking" was just a basic character trait of mine now.   I'm not sure why.  It just feels right.   

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by Halley Suitt

Somebody Cares

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Thu, 12 May 2005, 05:19

I have been going to the awesome forums (see the link up there in the far left top corner) and finding so much support and help there.  (Thanks Tom for kicking my butt to visit.)

They make me know that somebody cares.

But how totally weird it is that it's really a bunch of software, strangers, a screen full of little letters of the alphabet, avatars and late night assurances that we can make it through, and it actually works.  How the hell does that work?!? 

It shouldn't work.  It's not real, is it?  Shouldn't real people -- my real friends and real family -- care MORE?  Shouldn't it be easier to talk to them?

Forget the shoulds.  It's not easier to talk to them.

And I don't mean to say anything against them.  It's just ... well, the forum is different.  You just go there and the people there GET IT.  They GET IT and GET YOU.  And you don't have to explain much.  You don't have to say why you're there. 

You're just there and everyone's glad to see you.  Not really SEE you, that is.  Listen to you.  Hear the tippy tappy of your fingers.   Oh, whatever! 

Come join us and you'll be glad to know somebody cares.  We do.  And we care for one another and that's a big deal.

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Fri, 08 Apr 2005, 04:19

I have to say, one surprising thing about not drinking, (and I'm still not drinking) is how much guys who don't drink turn me on.  I'm so glad to meet them. 

Woe be to the sloppy drunk guy who tries to pick me up ... it just doesn't get any traction with me any more. 

And even better, sex with a guy who doesn't drink is really hot.  They have to be a lot more resourceful and clever and funny and smart to get me into bed ... but it's worth all the work on both sides.   I mean, well, wait, bad choice of words perhaps, but, whatever ... use your imagination.

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by Halley Suitt

Still Quitting

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Thu, 24 Feb 2005, 10:57

I guess you guys know that when you comment, I get a copy of the comment in my email.  It makes it easier to catch junky stupid spam comments for one thing, but also gives me a chance to read your comments asap.

Today I got to read this one from Maggie and I really liked it:

It is thanks to this web site that I quit.  I was disgusted with myself for failing at previous attempts, and was searching the web for helpful information when I found this site.  One of the posters recommended the Rational Recovery site, so I went there, did the exercises, and just quit.  I don't know if it works for everyone, but it really opened my eyes to the whole process of how addiction seems to work in my brain.  It's been six months since I quit, and truthfully, I don't miss it at all, don't even mind if the whole room is drinking except for me.  It's wonderful to wake up in the morning clear-headed.  Plus, I magically lost 20 pounds.  Thanks for this site, it was a godsend.

I haven't had any alcohol since the last post which I believe was February 9th.  Not a long time, but I'm glad I've managed it.  Also, I really appreciated the comment  from Tom that led me to the forums -- very awesome way to keep from drinking.  I think they are the best.  Check it out:

When I knew I needed to quit drinking once and for all, I Googled "Quit drinking" and ended up here. I posted a few times on this blog and someone on here suggested that I go into the forum and check it out. ("A place to talk about it" at the top of the page)So I did. I'm breaking my addiction to alcohol (it's been 130 days since I've drank), but now am addicted to this forum. :) So many wonderful people in there just like myself that are finding just how great life can be, when you don't have your head in the bottle. Maybe this blog is seeming a little neglected these days, because people are going to the forum that I finally found. If you haven't checked it out yet, please do. Go in as a guest and do some reading. Pretty cool stuff indeed. Halley, come in and say hello to everyone, we'd be delighted.

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by Halley Suitt

Okay, Guys, Dish!

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Wed, 09 Feb 2005, 10:40

I hate to see this little blog get ignored.  I wanted to ask everyone where they were at in their "no drinking" process and kick start the blog with some new info.

Two very good friends of mine completely stopped drinking this year and I see them working hard to keep clean and clear.   They inspire me.

I've stopped being so strict myself.   I've gotten more "relaxed" about drinking ... I actually don't recall when I blogged last about this here and if this is news or not, but I am drinking a bit.   I drink wine with dinner or a party now and then ... maybe once a week?   

Still, it does result in me being a lot more foggy and slow to get up the next morning to exercise, so I've decided to quit it once for all.   It doesn't seem worth it.

I want to retrain my response to fatigue and stress.  If I feel stressed and think, "Jeez, I really need to relax,"  I want my response to be reaching for my yoga tape or turning  the doorknob to go out for a walk, or even blogging here, instead of drinking anything alcoholic.

So ... who else wants to give us an update? 

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by Halley Suitt

Still Not Drinking

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Thu, 10 Jun 2004, 12:21

Just wanted to mention I'm still not drinking after stopping in October 2003, starting February 2004 and quitting March 2004. It's June now. Doesn't seem very long, but I know this is it, I won't go back. I'm just glad to be clean and clear of it.

It was letting me do other dumb, irresponsible stuff that I don't do anymore. That alone was worth it.

If you want to really get encouraged, read some of the terrible stuff about the damage drunk drivers have done and can do. And admit it -- you have driven under the influence -- all of us have at one time or another.

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Sun, 11 Apr 2004, 18:45

A wire story about college drinking from Yahoo! News has this rather upsetting quotation in it,

Aaron White, an assistant research professor at Duke University who studies student drinking, said, "Half of all the Duke students surveyed have had at least one blackout and don't remember what they did. The things that students do range from vandalizing property to getting raped."

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by jonl

Conflicted

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Sun, 28 Mar 2004, 19:12

As I mentioned to Joi when he was here, I started drinking again within a month after I signed on here, but it didn't seem to be a problem. I may have a blind spot about this potential problem, though. My curse is that I remain quite functional when I'm drinking. I'm not a Malcolm Lowry... I don't drink myself into complete oblivion. The effects are more subtle and creepy.

Anyway I'm drinking now (literally now, as I type), and I haven't posted here in a long time because I don't know how I feel about alcohol. If I stood in front of an AA meeting now, I wouldn't know what to say. "My name is Jon, and I'm conflicted."

They don't give chips for that.

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