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Thu, 14 Dec 2006, 08:42
So I hope you all are managing to have a HAPPY holiday without the "Happy Hour" type happiness.
A sober holiday is a good holiday. Hell, staying sober is definately worth celebrating, right?
Enjoy yours and remember eggnog is available without booze, and tastes like crap anyway, with or without liquor.
One thing that I brought up before we launched this site and I think is worth talking about a bit on here is that there's not just one take on all of this. I was talking about a bunch of my friends and that they all drink, or don't drink for very different reasons. This is important to keep in mind when talking about this because there isn't just one problem, nor just one solution.
In fact, this is extemely important to keep in mind when talking about "Alcoholism" if only because there's no (at least that I know of) accepted standard of what makes an alcoholic, what is alcoholism, or how to treat it. "You can't be a little bit pregnant" is an example that's tossed around a lot (not just here) as a way of saying "you can't just be a little bit of an alcoholic, either you are or you aren't." The problem, as I see it, with that is there's a set group of medical standards that can proove if you are pregant or not, but with alcoholism there's nothing that locked down. In fact, it's pretty much all opinion based, either a person thinks they are an alcoholic or they aren't, and/or his/her friends think they are an alcoholic or they aren't. There's still raging debates about if you can call it a Disease or not.
Personally, I think it is, but I'm not a doctor, or an alcoholic so my opinion on that topic doesn't really make a shread of difference.
The last thing in the world I want to imply is that I'm knocking AA or anything like that. It's a great program which has helped a lot of people, and I think anything that helps people on such a scale is a good thing. But it's not the end all be all, it doesn't have a 100% success record. I've had parents, family members, and close friends all join AA at one point or another, and they all talked the talk and every last one of them still drinks. But I think that points more at the person, see I've also had a lot of friends decide they are going to stop and they did. What I'm getting at is what works flawlessly for one person might not work at all for another. The same way that every single person who picks up a drink does it for a different reason, quitting is different for every person.
What I noticed is the people who said they were going to quit, and didn't, never really believed it themselves. They were expecting thing to just happen magically. The people who did quit, believed. They belived in themselves. Maybe the only thing that has a 100% success rate is a personal commitment. If you commit not to drink, short of you changing your mind and deciding to drink, you aren't going to drink. What I mean is that as much as whatever program worked for you, YOU worked for you. And if a program didn't work for you, it's probably more of you not working for you. Because you are the common thread in all of this.
I know this post is all over the place but it's just a bunch of things I've been thinking about. Be glad I didn't try to tie religion into all of this yet, that would be a mess. What I'm getting at, overall, is that this isn't Lord of The Rings and there's not One Ring to rule them all. Everything being said on this site is someone's opinion, even if it's being stated as fact. There's a different path for everyone, and it's up to each of us to find it for ourselves.
I haven't had a sip of alcohol since I was 12 years old. My 29th birthday is next month and to this day it's one of the decisions I'm still most proud of. My father is an alcoholic and a majority of my childhood memories are of him drunk. I started drinking myself in 5th grade, because, well, that's who people do right? They drink. It never occured to me that there was an option, it was just a matter of when to start. A dubbed cassette (vintage P2P) of an album by a band called Minor Threat that a friend gave me was the first time I realized there were other paths I could take besides the most obvious one right in front of me. I started drinking because I thought I was rebelling. But what kind of rebellion is it if you are doing the same thing as your parents, as your peers, and as every ad in eyeshot is telling you to do? Not doing it, now that was something different. Finding a group of people pointing this out was a major turning point in my life. Just knowing other people were making that decision, knowing I wasn't alone made all the difference. This site has that potential. If it helps one person it's worth it.
(Sorry of that was too nostalgic or emo, it's late and I'm jet lagged. I'm psyched to be involved with this and just wanted to introduce myself and how I fit in to this puzzle. Next post won't be so sappy. Cross my heart.)
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Thu, 01 Jan 2004, 17:46
I quit drinking last year and blogged about it. Since then, I have received phone calls, chats, email and comments on my blog from people supporting me and sharing experiences with me. It's been an incredibly rewarding experience.
I'm fascinated with AA and with all of the methods people have developed to support their efforts to not drink.
This is a blog dedicated to people who have chosen not to drink. We will share our experiences, observations and ideas about not drinking.
Personally, blogging about not drinking has helped me enormously in thinking about this and I'm hoping that maybe we can discover a way to allow other people to use this medium to help them not drink as well. I think we can learn a lot from AA, but maybe we can discover new methods that weren't available when the 12 steps were written.
A few thoughts about the focus of this blog. I think we should 1) not be judgemental or negative in any way about people who drink or choose other ways to manage their drinking, 2) focus primarily on people who have chosen to quit drinking alcohol (although discussion addiction in general in the context of drinking obviously makes sense), 3) have a meta discussion about blogging and other technologies and organizational structures that can help in the way that AA helps its members.
The authors will be selected by myself, but people who contribute consistantly in the comments will be invited to become authors. If and when this discussion exceeds the scope of this humble blog, we'll decide what to do next.